Activities with a valued participant, such as being chased by dad, can become an invaluable opportunity to teach some needed language. If Dad can turn around and have his back facing the child or pretend to be deep in a book, prompt your child to take notice and then feed them the line, “hey Dad, look at me!” or simply just “hey!” When you hear the desired speech, Dad whips around to face the child with a huge smile or drops the reading material and immediately focuses his eyes on the kiddo with an enthusiastic “look at you!”
Say, “wait” while holding the toy or items for the activity. Gesturing the number “one” is helpful for additional communication. If your child is unfamiliar with the instruction or begins to protest, wait for a second of calm before saying, “please show me calm, put your arms down.” This allows the child to follow an instruction (while waiting) that can be reinforced with the item or activity. This is a good skill to practice when YOU have a little extra time. This process may need to be repeated until your child shows calm behavior. Fortunately, you have a reward ready to go when that learner is ready to follow instructions.
Hold your fingers ready to turn the page. As your child eagerly waits for you to turn the page, give them an opportunity to ask for it. Tell them, “say ‘turn the page’” (or something simple or more complex, depending on your child’s skills). After they try to repeat what you’ve said, honor that practice attempt and turn the page.
Notice what your child or learner is pointing to or perhaps fixated on. If they are focused on animals, for example, try fun “fill-in” phrases. For example, “look - it’s a duck! A duck says…” or “which animal says ‘quack! quack!’?”
Maybe your child prefers playing by themselves. That’s ok! There are still lots of ways to teach skills, especially language, with learners who like to play independently. Any time your learner does things as a result of your actions, there is something being communicated. For example, if you attempt to sit by your child or help/play, and your child moves away – they are probably saying, “you’re too close” or “leave me alone” or “these are mine.” One thing that can be tried is getting close to your child again and immediately feeding them the words, “move” or “go away.” After your child gives it a try, honor their practice attempt and show them what it means to ask for space.
This process can be repeated, and I would encourage you to narrate as you go! After you’ve given your child some space, you can say, “I’m coming back.” As your child acknowledges you, and you are close enough, prompt them again with the same instruction as before. Your child may get frustrated (using arms to block you from getting close, pushing/shoving, throwing toys). It’s possible that they are not quite familiar with what’s going on AND it’s not the way they are used to playing. Start simple and use those opportunities also, because being frustrated is a part of life too! After or when your child is calm, simply go back to what you were doing before your child showed frustration. Attempt to prompt another simple request, such as “all done” or “no more.” When they give it a try, repeat what they said (“ok, all done”) and honor it.
Frustration during these practice opportunities is very likely, and that’s ok. It’s a very real emotion, and everyone is entitled to feel that way. While we don’t want to reward inappropriate ways of coping, we also don’t want to push too much teaching when your child is not in a great “place.” Always consider the amount of sleep, hunger versus being full, and how much your kid has already had to “put up with.”
Curious how to use a tablet or iPad to teach language? Click here for a short video on how YouTube can be used to practice language.Tips in this video can also be used during other activities that have repetition or frequent opportunities, such as dumping & refilling containers.
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